Today, a comparison between my roommates and I and a high-school lunch table crossed my mind. Seven or eight girls who are friends and sit together every day at lunch is almost like a weaker version of the seven of us who live together. We share our drama with each other, obviously see each other often, can pick up on each other’s moods, know each other’s fashion styles, share things in common, etc.
However, I think that any time a group expands beyond three people, more often than not, there bound to be mini-cliques that function as even stronger friendships. I don’t want to use “clique” in a negative sense here either. I simply mean that when a group is large, some people will be better friends with other people. Within the larger group, each person will have her closest friend of the group.
I have noticed this among the girls in my room. We all started out awkwardly getting to know each other, and the first two weeks of school consisted of almost purely small-talk. That was the initial stage of getting to know one another. We first had to make sure that nobody was going to turn out to be crazy or have some unforeseen extreme personality. As time went on, especially as a result of living together, we got better senses of each other’s personality, naturally causing some of us to click better together.
Seeing the stronger bonds between certain roommates is actually very surprising. The pairs are not between people who have similar backgrounds, or even seemingly similar personalities at first glance. Some friendships are totally unexpected, but great nonetheless.
Thinking about this, maybe cliques are not so bad once you get out of high-school. As long as people know how to behave and bring new ideas and people to the table, there could be meaningful relationships and good results!
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